The Healing Room

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I think everyone ought to have their own healing room. To really heal, you have to know you can express ANY feeling, without danger of hurting yourself or someone else. No one else has to see you do this. The only rule I try to remember is - acting out your feelings isn't the same as allowing them expression. That's a tough one, especially when you're full of rage and hurt and you WANT TO KILL SOMEONE. All I can tell you is this. Confronting and attacking the person who abused me made me feel better for about 30 minutes. Crying and raging and releasing the hurt (over time, privately, and with someone I trusted) healed me for good. Really.

The best thing about this kind of healing is, it's FREE. You don't have to spend many of your hard-earned dollarettes on a therapist who will help you rationalize and analyze and think it through and eventually, maybe, feel a little bit better. All you need is a safe place, a box of kleenex, and someone you trust. If you don't have anyone you trust, do it by yourself. Just DO it.

Do I speak too strongly? I'm just so sick of books and experts and therapies and whatnot, telling me what I should feel. Or how to visualize or pray or positive-think my way to emotional health. Hell with that. I feel what I feel. And now I know if I accept and allow my feelings to express, the bad ones dissipate, and the good ones blossom!

The following are links I have found helpful or interesting. Inclusion here does not mean I endorse or agree 100% with anything written. But gems can often be found, so read with your own discernment handy.

Books on Healing Emotions

Interesting Sites & Articles